Too many times I’ve been in conversations with women who have specific things they want in a man. Like I’m talking about a whole laundry list. I use to say to myself dang she wants a perfect person. Now we all know that nobody is perfect. So why do “we” as women do this to ourselves? I think it’s because we do sometimes live in a fantasy world. I say this because as a child I loved Fairytale movies, and I always said to myself I want my Prince Charming and that Happy Ending. I still believe in this, we should all be able to marry someone we love and I’m talking flaws and all.
It’s not unrealistic to have expectations. But to think a person should have EVERYTHING on your list is kind of a bit too much. What do you think? My Husband is not perfect but he’s perfect for me. Be with someone who encourages you, wants the best for you, that’ll be there for you no matter what. A man that will be there in your times of need literally in sickness and in health, a man that is committed to only you (monogamy), a man that will provide for his family, a man that places God first and then his family. I can literally go on and on, but those are things that are the most important to me.
God has blessed me to be in a relationship that is NOT PERFECT, but with every imperfection comes strength. Some days I don’t really want to be bothered, I’m stubborn, and I’m passionate about whatever I believe in. I’m a Taurus I know I’m not that easy to deal with and I have traits that may drive him crazy. But he loves me with all my imperfections. I can’t ask for anything more than that. If you have a list I want you to sit back look at your list, and then re-evaluate what you’re bringing to the table as well. Are you going to be that supportive wife, monogamous, invested in the marriage, are you ready to love all his flaws, are you on the same page about kids and religion? Those are the real questions that need some answers. Let me know in the comments your thoughts or experiences. This is an open forum.